While It’s a Pandemic, Stay Calm for the Kids

The world feels a little topsy-turvy right now, doesn’t it? The coronavirus news is overwhelming, and the American way of life (especially those close to NYC) seems to have changed overnight.

While there are countless blog articles about how to protect yourself and your family and what to buy, I think it is also important that parents remember to stay calm for the kids. Kids can sense things are different, and they can tell if mom or dad is feeling anxious.

Here are some reminders of ways to be an example for your kids, even when you are feeling worried.

Limit Media and News

Yes, you do need to stay informed. However, you don’t need to fall down the rabbit hole and spend hours watching the news or reading articles online about the pandemic. As far as the kids, you might want to avoid having the news on the radio or your tv at all (depending on their ages). If too much media exposure makes you feel panicky, imagine how it makes the kids feel.

Stay Connected to Others

We are being told to practice social distancing and to stay at home as much as possible. Some parents have to work from home at the same time their kids’ schools are closed. Even so, you don’t want your family to feel isolated. The best way to avoid feelings of isolation is to stay connected with others. Text, call, video message – do whatever you need to do to hear from someone outside of your home.

Practice Self-Care

The best thing you can do as a mom is to make sure you are taking care of yourself. You won’t be able to be a healthy role model for your kids if you allow the stress to get to you. Unlike other types of natural disasters, you will have power and water. You can take a long bath or do yoga in your own home.

Reassure Your Kids

If your kids are worried, don’t ignore or minimize their fears. Instead, listen to them and then reassure them. Explain what is happening in an age-appropriate way. Make sure they understand this is a precaution. Be sure to remind kids that while things may be different for some time, your love for them will never change.  

Stick to Your Routine

I know it sounds silly to say “stick to your routine” when everyone’s routines are being tossed out the door. But, what I mean is your at-home routines. A little bit of consistency, such as keeping your child’s bedtime routine, will go a long way in making them feel safe.

Break Some Rules

If you have family screen time rules, this may be the time to break them – especially if the kids are home from school while you are working from home. The kids will be alright if they spend a bit more time watching Disney+.

NOTE – If you don’t have Disney+, this is the time to get it.

Pause Before You React

If you have a moment where you start to feel panicked, pause before you react. Find a space away from your kids (such as your bathroom or your closet) to take some deep breaths, cry, or whatever it is you need to do to release some of that anxiety.